Parenting

  True Grit or Not True Grit? How to raise a growth-minded child     Although, that is the question, sometimes it is hard to answer. Especially if we don't understand what true grit is. Or when we have no idea what a growth mindset is. According to a panel of professors grit is when we have self-control and the ability to regulate emotions and thoughts. Children with a growth mindset have more grit. Some traits that they talked about that people that have grit have are the power of persistence, deliberate practice, effort, curiosity, self control and a growth mindset.     Grit is important for our children to have so that they don't give up easily on things that push them or are hard. When children have grit, they can keep pushing through those things that challenge them and they can make themselves keep going and learn from those things that are hard and learn that they can do hard things. This will lead to perseverance, which will lead to having a growth minds...

 Boys vs Girls Does gender matter in parenting? Do we parent boys and girls differently?     We all know that boys and girls are different, but how far does that difference go? Does it extend into parenting? Do we need to parent boys differently than girls and vice versa? The answer to this can be complicated. One might say yes, and one might say no. I say in some ways yes, and in others no. One of the examples that we had from our class of parents parenting boys and girls differently is below... One of the BYU-I professors shared the following story about parenting and gender. She said, “I had a neighbor some years ago from another country. Although we were different in many ways, we developed a deep friendship and enjoyed watching our children of similar ages play and grow together. During long summer days of sitting together and watching our children, we visited with each other about all sorts of things. One day, however, she said something that surprised me. She state...

 For my BYUI Parenting class, we get to create a blog for our final project. This is that blog. On this blog I am just going to share three things that we learned that stuff out to me. I will take these things and try and teach them to you. EMOTIONAL COACHING What is it? And why is it important?      Emotional coaching is when we listen to the child, understand what they are feeling, try to put those feelings into words,help them understand why they are feeling it with validation, and then treat them with respect. This was an aspect that was taught by Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Gottman. Here is a video of them explaining what emotional coaching is...      The way that we answer children has a big impact on them. Below is an example of a conversation between a mother and her daughter. Example #1 is the more common approach that my occur between daughter and mother. Example #2 is the better way to answer our children and handle the situatio...